All relationships on this planet originate primarily from internal subliminal perceptions that are projected outward. An estimated 97% to 99% of all perceptions begin subconsciously that are likeliest to have been learned from outside of our bodies by way of parents or caregivers, television “programming” (it’s called programming for a reason), films, books, songs, or online digital content found on social media or websites. Because most children these days seem to spend more time focused on the content displayed in the Digital World than in the Real World, this blog post is meant to offer some helpful solutions for families to reconnect digitally first and later in the Real World.
Divide, Isolate, Conquer, and Control
The biggest fear for a controlling parent, who is trying to keep children away from another loving parent, is that the children may abandon them for the other parent. For many people, their #1 fear in life is related to abandonment or lost love. A controlling parent who is just as angry about a broken romantic relationship with their former partner inside or outside of marriage more than two years after the relationship split started is someone who may never get over it. What can truly anger the controlling parent the most is that their child or children still loves the other parent, so the controlling parent will most likely, consciously and subconsciously, try to disconnect the loving bonds between the children and the other parent.
Reconnecting with Children and Others Online
In 2017 and 2018, a large number of reports in the media have made the claim that young children and teenagers spend upwards of almost every single waking hour looking at a digital screen of some type like a smartphone, tablet, or computer monitor when they aren’t forced to put them away by their teachers in school. In terms of daily hours looking at digital devices, this translates to anywhere between 9 and 11 hours per day looking at a digital screen. Between 2013 and 2017, the estimated amount of time that a child spent looking at a digital screen tripled in just that four year time span, per a study released by a media research firm named Common Sense (report link below).
Younger people who belong to the Generation Z group (born after 1996) or Millennials (born between the early 80’s and 1995) grew up spending the bulk of their time online instead of just communicating with friends and family by way of telephone calls or even with lengthy conversations in person. For many of these younger Americans, they may prefer short texts or brief comments made on social media. Parents trying to reconnect with family members should consider searching for them online, or establishing websites or blogs in the child’s name. Many times, these children may not speak to their parents, but they do try to follow them online as if they were “shadowing” them like a secret spy.
You can purchase a website domain name from GoDaddy (http://www.godaddy.com) for $11 per year (price subject to change) that can be used to try to reconnect with your child or children. Then, you create a free blog website page from Blogger (www.blogger.com – owned by Google) that will be the same domain name but with .blogspot.com following it. You just add your desired website or blog name on both the main search boxes for Blogger and GoDaddy to find out if it is available. Because Google owns Blogger, an online search by a child on Google is likely to show Blogger pages high up on the page searches through the Google search engine. With two website names for the child (ending in .com and .blogspot.com), you just doubled your chances that the child will find their name on an internet search engine!
You can call customer service number for GoDaddy at (480) 505 – 8877, and ask them to redirect the new domain name (i.e., JohnSmith.com) to the new Blogger page (or JohnSmith.blogspot.com) for free. Now, both domain names will automatically lead people to your site. You can add photos, videos, and music to the page that is all about your child. The total cost of the new website is just $11 if you set it up on your own. A person doesn’t need to be a computer whiz or genius to establish these websites. They just need to spend some quiet time focused on building these sites while reading the easy online instructions or watching tutorial videos on YouTube or Vimeo.
A person or company trying to market a product or themselves is only as good as their target audience. Let’s take a closer look below at the Top 10 Social Media sites in the world as of January 2018. Please keep in mind that some younger children may avoid Facebook and prefer other social media sites like Snapchat or Instagram (owned by Facebook). If so, you can add your website link to these same social media sites where your child may spend several hours each day. Your child may share the website with his other friends who could later encourage him or her to reconnect with you.
Connecting Families by way of the Digital World 24 hours per day!!!
Active Users of Global Social Media Platforms (January 2018)
Platform Number of Global Users
#1 – Facebook 2.167 billion
#2 – YouTube 1.500 billion
#3 – WhatsApp 1.300 billion
#4 – FB Messenger 1.300 billion
#5 – WeChat 980 million
#6 – QQ 843 million (China)
#7 – Instagram 800 million
#8 – Tumblr 794 million
#9 – Qzone 568 million (China)
#10 – Sina Weibo 376 million (China)
Sources: We Are Social and Hootsuite
Children can become even more addicted to the Digital World as a way to escape from the pain of family trauma and disconnections from loved ones. However, the daily use of 10+ hours of internet watching can zap their neurotransmitter (dopamine, serotonin, etc.) levels prior to causing them even more emotional and physical pain. Many of these same children may turn to Big Pharma pills for pain relief that can damage their brain, especially their Pineal gland region (a “Third Eye” that is akin to a Human Wi-Fi system which connects us to self and others around us).
Some of the toxic Pharma pill ingredients like “fluoride” (melted aluminum) are magnetically attracted to the Pineal gland where they clog it up and diminish the positive healing benefits for the body and mind. If you can imagine throwing a metal blanket on your home Wi-Fi system, now please visualize how good or bad the connection would be for your smartphone or tablets. The same can be true for a disconnected person with a clogged Pineal gland with very weak frequency reception levels. For more details, please visit one of our recent blogs entitled How Pharma Harms Relationships –http://infinitebonds.com/how-pharma-harms-relationships/
How Music and Movies Fuel Powerful Loving Memories
Music is one of the best positive memory triggers along with sense of smell, so please post their favorite songs on the website or blog that was designed for the child or children. Just one positive memory recalled from many years ago that the unique song had a specific meaning to the child and parent may be the figurative spark to reconnect the powerful loving bond that is fueled deep within them like a burning fire of love.
Music for Moms
For example, a Mom who hasn’t seen her child or children in many years may post videos with a reference to Mothers that the child might’ve sung with them back when they were living together.
Momma Mia by Abba
Momma’s Song by Carrie Underwood
Always Love You (Mother’s Day Song) by Tori Kelly
I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston
Music for Dads
For Fathers, they might consider songs like these ones that could positively trigger repressed memories that bonded or connected the child or children to their Dads:
Centerfield by John Fogerty (especially if the children played baseball or softball)
The Living Years by Mike and the Mechanics
Daddy’s Little Girl by Michael Bublé
Eye of the Tiger by Survivor
Tarzan – Son of Man by Phil Collins
For both parents, this is a powerful video again by Phil Collins about united families reconnecting at home.
Take Me Home by Phil Collins
We are Family by Sister Sledge
Positive Film Triggers
Memorable film clips from movies that both the child and Father loved to watch together are also powerful positive memory triggers that could be linked on the new website designed for the child such as these scenes:
Rudy (the scene where the stadium janitor talks him out of quitting the Notre Dame football team)
Rocky III (the scene where Apollo Creed, Rocky’s new coach, inspires him not to quit by saying “there is no tomorrow” over and over).
It’s a Wonderful Life (the emotionally powerful final scene in this classic film that shows the previously despondent Father reuniting with his loving family)
If the children are not being handed your cards and letters that you’ve mailed them for months, years, or decades, then please try posting the same cards, letters, poems, jokes, thoughts for the day, and other topics on the website or blog that you built specifically for your children. In today’s Digital World, you’re likely to plant the virtual “seeds” of future reconnection opportunities with your loved ones if they spend hours and hours looking at your messages posted online that are directed solely at them. To help your child break free from the years of negative programming, the online connection route will likely later lead to the physical connection in the Real World.
For every negative action or “anchor” in your loved one’s (children, especially) that is holding them back from reconnecting with you, these positive reactions may help to neutralize the subliminal programming traumas that are holding them back. In the ongoing battle of fearful programming that is based primarily upon hidden and repressed subliminal perceptions, the main intent of this blog article is to show you various techniques to “cut” the negative anchors that are figuratively drowning many people with negative emotions that disconnect them from self and others around them, especially their family.
The only thing in this world that is more powerful than fear is love, both consciously and subconsciously. Repetition is the key to programming, for better or worse, so please be consistent with the loving actions in order to reconnect.
Tenacity + Passion + Purpose = Success in the Digital World and Real World.